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How to deal with the negativity on social media? 

The social networking sites which were enjoyable and helped in connecting to friends, family and like minded people seems to be turning out to be a annoying place to be in. The once facebook addict me, now feel that its creating too much chaos around. The memes, the so called intellectual videos, negativity, intolerance, sarcasm and criticism on anything and everything are the main annoying factors today. 

Vblogs or Video blogs : Everyday 1000 of videos float through the internet and most popular are the ones that speaks gossip about actors/celebrities or that contains controversy. The titles of these videos are more annoying. For instance a celebrity had tweeted that the guy she is married to is her second husband while her job is her first husband. The title of videos that talk about it are ‘Celebrity is married twice and is expecting her baby from her second husband’. Dei who are you guys da??? 

Negativity : Being in India and also being active in social media, the toughest part is to find positivity. There are ‘n’ number of people who in the virtual world try to make us believe the following :

  • We reside at a cruel, blood thirst, non secular nation where only worst of the worst happens. 
  • We eat only harmful food which will lead to cancer. 
  • Fat people shall get cardiac diseases and slim people shall live forever. 
  • A particular religion is great while others are fake. 
  • Whatever we have believed to be our cultural identity is all fake and we have been living in a shell. 
  • And lot more… 

Sarcasm and criticism : Meme is a trend now. But its so annoying to put a meme for anything and everything. From a woman’s dressing to the government policies, from an actor’s interview to a movie celebration, from a social issue to supporting anti national activities, the sarcasm and criticism have grown hugely in the social networking platforms which really spreads more negativity. 

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So what can we do? Quit social networking sites? Get depressed watching all nonsense shared? Not necessarily. Here are my quick tips for you to enjoy being in social media:

  • Everyone who you know need not be your friend in social media if their ideologies or the content they share is annoying you. There is always an unfriend option to click and remove them from your social circle. 
  • Take oath to spread positivity and motivate people around. 
  • Whatever is said or shared need not be true always. Hence don’t get upset with the share against your ideologies. 
  • You need not always defend the activities that you believe in. Remember there is life outside social media. 
  • Join groups that matches your interests and get to know people who share your interests and keep learning new stuffs. 
  • Subscribe to pages or people who inspire you. Read more stuffs that motivates you to move forward in life. 
  • Stop sharing and arguing over politics and religion as that gives a huge peace of mind. Learn to ignore. 

These are what I follow to overcome the negativity that’s passed through social media. Lets use social networking sites to spread positivity and peace rather than creating chaos. Everyone has right to share their views and you have the right to choose what to take in and what not. So be smart and be happy. 

Dora the guide (explorer)

Dora the guide (explorer)

Being a dad of 3 year old, I have got into a habit of enjoying cartoon series with my son. I should admit that at times its not great to watch them, as the adult in us would nag us about other priority issues but when you see your kid enjoy the series and get inspired by them, we tend to shut the adult in us for sometime and get into the kids mode. Coming to the point, my son is a huge fan of “Dora the explorer” and he ensures that we all follow what Dora says when the show is telecasted. And it is the reason that made me to pen this blog.

I analysed Dora as an adult and found that its not just a regular cartoon series with some random jokes or action to make kids laugh. Dora is a guide and she has lessons which every adult should  also follow in the day to day life. These are the takeaway from the show for all.

Understand the problem: Dora has a problem in every episode and she has to solve it. At times we get panicked when we hear the term ‘problem’ but we should believe that every problem has a solution if we understand it completely. Dora portrays that clearly in the show. She understands the problem and its severity before she solves it.

Find a solution: After understanding the problem, Dora finds the solution to the problem. A lot of us have the tendency to jump directly into solving the issues instead of finding a solution first. We do not spend time to think about solution. Its always better to find a solution or the options to solve the problem and then go with the best solution.

Optimal use of resources: Its generally the nature of an individual to do it all by themselves. If that would have been the scenario then we wouldn’t have the monkey, the Map, the Backpack in the show.Dora teaches us to find the resource and use them wherever needed. The show also portrays not hesitate to ask for help whenever its required. The right choice of resources for the task should be made to solve the problem quickly and without hurdles. When you choose a resource, work with them as a team which shall make the work easier.

Appreciate everyone: We do not appreciate or thank people much in our day to day life when they help us. We assume that they are doing their duty. Even if they do their duty, we should appreciate or convey the regards which shall be motivating them to help more people. At the end of the day, everyone would wish for a recognition. Dora appreciates all her friends once the task is completed.

Appraise your work yourself: Do we evaluate our performances? Its really a quality to possess to be successful. Evaluating here not just should be rating your performance on a scale but could just be what you did well and what could have been well.Dora evaluates her task and finds the part of task which she likes.  

Celebrate success : Success is success no matter what is its size and we should learn to celebrate it. As adults we tend to be celebrating only huge success but fixing a small problem is also success and we should be celebrating them as well.

Do you agree with me that Dora is guide for adults as well???