The tiny tots and their emotions

Do you think only pregnant women have mood swings?

You want to see someone who can showcase more emotional changes than a oscar winning actor?

You think only your friend is a drama queen or king who acts to get hus or her thing done as his or her wish?

If the answer is yes for the above questions then it means that you have not been a dad yet or you don’t have kids at your home for whose actions you are primarily responsible.

Infants and emotions are like the waves in CRT monitor in the hospitals. They are never constant and they should not be (if they are , you should seriously meet a doctor). They always change based on their need. For example, my son wakes up a day with a beaming smile and on the contrast he might wake up crying loudly the very next day. But there are few emotions which are static like the excitement when we take him to his favourite place, but them their favourite toy or simply gifting them for their good attitude. Infact their life is quite tough as they don’t know to express what is there in their mind as adults and so they chose an emotion to fulfill their needs.

So how do we deal with the emotional ups and downs the infants showcase? Frankly telling you its always not easy to convince them but i have few tips:

1. Do not encourage kids to throw tantrum: Kids have the habit of throwing tantrums to get their needs fulfilled but encouraging that shall make them believe that its a solution to get things from us. So do not encourage them throwing tantrums.

2. Encourage them to be happy : When kids are in happy mood, they will be too much excited and do things which might irritate the parents but it should not be restricted as stopping them shall discourage them from being happy and make them fear of being happiness.

3. Be a friend when they are upset : Be a friend to your infant and gain their trust so that they open up to you about their problems. Its easy for the infants to express their happiness but its not easy to express when they are upset. Find ways to make them happy and come to normalcy.

4. Know the reason of their tears. If they cry for a reason try to solve it but its frivolous then try to divert them to something which can excite them.

5. Be an ideal parent: Infants learn to showcase their emotion from the parent. So we share the responsibility to teach them the right way to express their feelings and how to control certain emotions at places.

In the emotional roller coaster of the infants we might lose cool at times but its more important to remember that kids are the purest souls after all and they don’t know to fake their feelings. Its us the parents who have to learn the tactics to handle the little ones for the benefit of both.

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Bedtime conversation with D

Bedtime conversation with D

It was bed time and the clock stuck 11. We switched off the lights. And that’s the time the world starts spinning for our 3.5 year old son ‘D’. Its a routine that serious (not so serious for us) starts when we go to bed after a long tiring day. We expect them to be tired as well but they behave the other way.

And to tell you more precisely the conversation would start from the word you utter and thats the trap. Yesterday the conversation started like this

Me : Gud night son.

D : Gud night Appa. But I am not sun. Sun comes in the morning and disappears at night. (Ah the kindergarden knowledge sharing)

Me : This is not that ‘Sun’ dear. It is S..O..N (I spell the word.)

D : Oh is it. Then we both are S(u)ons ah? (i didn’t know what he understood and which S(u)on he was referring to.)

Carefully I just say “Hmmm” without giving him a prompt.

D : Appa then chithi’s(aunt) son is Dhee. Am I right?

Me : No dear. Dhee is a girl and you should say ‘daughter’.

D : Why so? Why not son?

Me : In English the boy child is called Son and the girl child is called daughter.

D : (Confused) Oh is it. Ok. Then I will become doctor for Dhee.

Me : (Even more confused from where doctor came into picture) why doctor?

D : Ya i can’t be a daughter right. So I will become doctor.

Me : Ok guess you are feeling sleepy. Close your eyes now. Good night.

D : Appa you didn’t ask me what will I do when I become a doctor.

Me : ok tell me.

D : I will take care of everyone and so noone get uaah(in his language uaah means disease).

The proud dad in me smiled widely but to prevent more conversation and delaying the sleep time, I just give him Good night kisses and hug him to sleep.

Gifts – a token of love or value for money?

Gifts – a token of love or value for money?

“Hey dude, Happy birthday. Here is your gift.”

“Hey darling. How are you? Been very long since we met. I have got a gift for you.”

“Hey bro. Happy anniversary. Look what we have got for you.”

I guess from the above conversations you could easily guess what is common and also what this blog is about.

We have grown up in the culture of gifting not just today or yesterday but for ages. Yeah you heard it right. We have read that Sabari gifted lord Rama with the fruits that she had tasted already, Sudhama gifted lord krishna with the rice flakes when he met his friend after ages, our kings had exchanged lot of gifts that spoke the values of their kingdom and you see we gifted the kohinoor diamond to the Queen (that was a PJ 😛 ). In every household the gifting starts from the day we are born. Agree?

Now let me come to the point. What do you see when someone gifts you? The monetary value of it or the love the person has on us? Nowadays since we all have huge options and varieties, we go with pocket friendly gifts when we have to gift someone but yet we see to that it looks grandeur or atleast unique. But when we receive, we see the worth of it. We see the price, we see how useful or unique is that gift and more importantly we judge the person with the gift he is giving us. Aren’t we doing this?

Ok I can hear the readers asking that why this blog now. I got to overhear the conversation between two fellow passengers in my bus today and the ladies were discussing about the gift one of them has received which is the smallest in size than the other gifts she has received and the point she said startled me. She said – ” People haven’t developed since ages and are living in stone age as they still gift handmade not so perfect gifts to someone on their special day.”

But isn’t gifting to showcase to the receiver that they are in our hearts till the moment. I prefer gifting people something which I can do myself like painting, quilling or any craft. If you ask me why, I think that I can give the person whom I value a lot something which I can do investing my time and effort. Its easy to go and buy something from a shop but when I do it of my own it has my creativity with love.

So dear people if someone gifts you with something they have done by themselves, learn to appreciate because they didnt do a cool shopping for you in a mall but they put their effort to give you something special.

Cheers !!!