My sweet memories of Madras

My sweet memories of Madras

I have been visiting Madras since I was born. But my actual memories of Madras or Chennai started from the year 2007 when I came to work and later I settled there for a decade. As everyone would agree, the stay at Chennai has been the best part of my lifetime.

I am not going to talk about my personal and professional growth in Chennai but they have been remarkable. I just wanted to mention about the moments or memories I have enjoyed being a Chennai vaasi.

1. Marina beach

Though off late people started loving bessy and tiruvanmiyur beach, I have always loved Marina. The tasty bajjis and chats have been dinner for me the days I have visited Marina. I enjoy just sitting and looking at people who visit there and who play in the water.

2. Movie theaters :

When people thronged and boasted about Sathyam and Mayajaal, I have never regretted watching movies at AGS, PVR, Kamala, Udhayam and Kasi. Though the cold coffee and popcorns aren’t great as Sathyam, the movie experience is equally good. And also since the movie plans would pop up impromptu, it was easy to get tickets at these theaters. And the celebration of FDFS can never be as best as in this theaters.

3. Transportation at Chennai:

I really miss the electric train, metro, share auto rides at Chennai. Though I am at US today travelling in good buses, my own car but I really miss the metro ride or electric train rides that I always enjoyed at Chennai.

4. Chennai food:

From idli vadai pongal to atho, from thattu kadai to thalapakatti I miss the easy reachable food joints at Chennai. The fastfood shop outside Anna nagar tower park, the bombay chat stall at KK nagar behind PSBB school, Vasantha bhavan and Saravana bhavan lunch and tiffins, Ratna hotel sambhar idli, Masala poli at Sri Krishna Sweets, Jalebis at Grand sweets, Samosas and bhel puri from gangotri, Bengal sweets from K.C.Das are the ones I have cherished.

5. Temples :

Kapaleeshwarar temple at Mylapore, TTD temple at venkatnarayana road, Sringeri mutt at Venkatnarayana road, Ayodhya mandapam, Sai baba temple at mambalam, Kali baari at Mambalam, Ayyappan temple at KK nagar and Anna nagar, Chandramoulishwarar temple at Anna nagar, Guruvayurappan temple at Mahalingapuram, Maakaliamman temple at Anna nagar, Nanganallur Anjaneyar temple, Iskon chennai, St thomas mount basilica, Santhome Cathedral are the places I have visited the most. I would guarantee that you would have atleast visited few of this prominent temples if you have been at chennai for worship or for the prasadam.

6. Chennai Egmore / Central station :

“Passengers your attention please”. You should have always heard this when you have travelled in train from one of these stations. Lot of memorable journeys have started from here or would have end here. How much I love Indian railways inspite of thousand complaints we have with them.

7. Spirit of chennai :

Whether its IPL match or any celebration, whether its about Floods or vardha cyclone , chennai people have expressed so much of positivity towards the situation.

8. Malls :

We have so many new malls coming up in nook and corner of Chennai today but when I started my living at Chennai it had 2 prominent malls. The oldest Spencers plaza and citi center. Then from Express Avenue, Vijaya forum to VR mall today have emerged to be huge but still I used to go to Spencer plaza to do shopping. Still there are shops who sell in agreeable rates.

Chennai has been the city which has given a lot to the people whoever have come to the city for living.

Vanthaarai vaazhavaikkum chennai.

I miss you lot, Chennai aka Madras. Stay as positive as always.Chennai and later I settled there for a decade. As everyone would agree, the stay at Chennai has been the best part of my lifetime.

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Is it ok to cross the line of discipline?

Is it ok to cross the line of discipline?

A friend had visited us a week back with her son. It wasn’t a very pleasant visit atleast for us. I am not very sure about her. Her son literally created chaos at our home. She was totally silent about it. I doubt if she even cared about the chaos he was doing. As she left, she didn’t even say a sorry. This just hasn’t happened with us but with other common friends too.

This blog is not just about that friend of mine but about many other parents who really dont give it a damn when their kids behave weirdly or inappropriately. There are lot of them, I meet at my son’s school or in the community I live. They are not ready to take the responsibility of correcting their kids. A parent was calmly telling that his son is pampered a lot by his family members and so he doesn’t change. Another one says that he doesn’t want to embarass his kids in front of others. Man, talking all this we are making our kids emotionally weak.

What are we doing with our kids? We allow them to grow up however they want? In the name of respecting them, are we spoiling them? I have always been told by my mom that its better if we correct our children, than a third person doing it. It would hurt both us and the kids.

I don’t know if I am overthinking. I correct my 4 year old son everytime he crosses that line of discipline. Am i reacting a lot while other parents play it cool? The question keeps ringing in my mind…

The tiny tots and their emotions

Do you think only pregnant women have mood swings?

You want to see someone who can showcase more emotional changes than a oscar winning actor?

You think only your friend is a drama queen or king who acts to get hus or her thing done as his or her wish?

If the answer is yes for the above questions then it means that you have not been a dad yet or you don’t have kids at your home for whose actions you are primarily responsible.

Infants and emotions are like the waves in CRT monitor in the hospitals. They are never constant and they should not be (if they are , you should seriously meet a doctor). They always change based on their need. For example, my son wakes up a day with a beaming smile and on the contrast he might wake up crying loudly the very next day. But there are few emotions which are static like the excitement when we take him to his favourite place, but them their favourite toy or simply gifting them for their good attitude. Infact their life is quite tough as they don’t know to express what is there in their mind as adults and so they chose an emotion to fulfill their needs.

So how do we deal with the emotional ups and downs the infants showcase? Frankly telling you its always not easy to convince them but i have few tips:

1. Do not encourage kids to throw tantrum: Kids have the habit of throwing tantrums to get their needs fulfilled but encouraging that shall make them believe that its a solution to get things from us. So do not encourage them throwing tantrums.

2. Encourage them to be happy : When kids are in happy mood, they will be too much excited and do things which might irritate the parents but it should not be restricted as stopping them shall discourage them from being happy and make them fear of being happiness.

3. Be a friend when they are upset : Be a friend to your infant and gain their trust so that they open up to you about their problems. Its easy for the infants to express their happiness but its not easy to express when they are upset. Find ways to make them happy and come to normalcy.

4. Know the reason of their tears. If they cry for a reason try to solve it but its frivolous then try to divert them to something which can excite them.

5. Be an ideal parent: Infants learn to showcase their emotion from the parent. So we share the responsibility to teach them the right way to express their feelings and how to control certain emotions at places.

In the emotional roller coaster of the infants we might lose cool at times but its more important to remember that kids are the purest souls after all and they don’t know to fake their feelings. Its us the parents who have to learn the tactics to handle the little ones for the benefit of both.